Unless you had a cool upbringing, chances are, the birds and the bee’s conversation probably didn’t go over instructions on how to purchase your first vibrator. And since sex-ed certainly doesn’t offer a buying guide or how-to instructions for enjoying toys, knowing what to purchase and how to use it can be intimidating for first-timers. It’s quite a shame actually, because whether you’re teaming up with a partner or exploring your body’s sensations solo, sex should be about pleasure, after all.

Here’s where we come in. Consider us the cool friend you can compare notes with and openly ask questions. We know a thing or two about sex toys, so we’ve created a handy buying guide for your first vibrator: types of vibes, some things you need to know, and recommendations, of course. Let’s get vibing, shall we?

What is a Vibrator?

As the name suggests, a vibrator is anything that vibrates. Ta-da.

Okay to be fair, there are so many ways to get your rocks off than with a basic dildo vibrator. To help navigate the many vibrator options, we’ve broken them down into the most common subcategories to help first-timers learn more about which types of toys are available on the market as well as the perks of each type.

Intro Vibes

With simple designs and functionality, intro vibes offer a straightforward approach to vibrators. Although there is no wrong way to use a vibe, the designs of intro vibes take the guesswork out of what goes where making them highly intuitive and easy to use.

Clitoral Vibes

Because it’s one of the most common orgasm sweet spots for women, clitoral vibrators are designed with the clit in mind. Some clitoral vibrators have become so advanced that they now feature touch-free technology with air pressure waves delivering powerful, toe-curling stimulation. More on that later.

G-Spot Vibes

Sometimes, it’s what’s on the inside that counts and by the inside, we’re talking the G-spot. This erroneous zone is located on the front wall of the vagina, so G-spot vibes are curved to naturally stimulate this area. For some women, the G-spot can be hard to hit just right during sex, so these unique vibrators provide a little help for this hard-to-reach area.

Rabbit Vibes

Can’t decide if you want clitoral or G-spot stimulation? Both sound tantalizingly good? With the Rabbit Vibrators, you don’t have to choose. These pleasure-packing vibes feature “rabbit ears,” designed to stimulate the clitoris, teamed up with an internal piece for the G-spot. Many are designed with two separate motors to have a fully customizable experience. There’s no wonder these are some of the most popular types of vibrators.

Finger Vibes

While Finger vibrators are compact and discreet, they still pack a punch well above their weight for something so small. They’re great for clitoral stimulation, but also feel good on the nipples and other parts of the body, especially when it comes to getting in the mood.

Anal Vibes

If you’re curious to explore back door play, reach for a vibe designed specifically for anal. These types of vibes are usually thinner than other vibrators and have an extended base for easy removal. And remember: because the anus isn’t naturally lubricating, you’ll want to pair these toys with lube.

Wand Vibes

Featuring a large handle and vibrating head, wands are a classic vibrator type for external stimulation. They’re known for their powerful, OMG-worthy vibration levels.

Bullet Vibes

One of the most basic and economical vibrators, bullets are a great entry toy. They are cordless, usually running on small batteries (think watch batteries) and are wonderfully compact, perfect for taking along as a travel companion.

What are Vibrators Typically Made From?

It’s important to note that all vibrators are not created equal (or any sex toys, for that matter). Whenever choosing a new toy to introduce into the bedroom, you’ll want to know what it’s made from to ensure it is safe for your body. Let’s get into some of the common terms used when describing toys—a sex glossary if you will.

Porous vs. Non-porous Sex Toys

Porous

When you think of the word porous, a sponge might be something that comes to mind. Porous toys act in a similar way to a sponge—no matter how much you clean it, germs can still get trapped in its microscopic nooks and crannies. Which is precisely why porous materials should be avoided. If you do have a porous toy in your repertoire, make sure you use it with a condom to prevent bacterial infections or other problems.

Non-Porous

These types of toys are usually more expensive and considered “luxury” toys, but bacteria will not become embedded in the toy’s surface making them safer for use. These toys can also be easily sterilized.

Perhaps the most popular of the non-porous toys are silicone-based toys. As a general rule of thumb, silicone-based toys are soft, and they can provide flexibility, withstand extreme temperatures, and it’s a completely inert material—meaning that it doesn’t absorb any bacteria or fluids that it comes into contact with during play. With that being said, you want to ensure that anything you put into your body doesn’t have any additives to the silicone which could possibly make it porous. Reliable distributors will always disclose this information to you.

What’s the deal with phthalates?

You might come across toys that are listed as phthalate-free, which is certainly a good thing to note. Phthalates are a category of plasticizer which can leach out chemicals. There are a variety of phthalates out there, some of which may be carcinogenic or cause reproduction issues, and the regulations are often changing. For something that is coming into direct contact with your nether regions, phthalates are something you should avoid altogether.

Similar to the porous/non-porous topic, reliable distributors will list all of this information plain to see. If it’s not listed or readily available when you inquire, don’t buy from them.

How Do I Use a Vibrator?

In short, however, you find pleasure is the best way to use a vibrator. Most people reach for vibrators for an eruptive climax experience, but did you know vibrators are an excellent tool for arousal too?

Go off the beaten path and try using a vibrator to stimulate multiple erogenous zones with yourself or with a partner. Some unexpected (and awesome) spots include the nape of the neck, behind the knee, the earlobe, or the feet. Explore your options, we’re all different. What matters most is what’s pleasurable to you.

And if you ask us, lube is always a good idea. Water-based lubricants are a popular choice, while silicone and oil-based lubes can be longer lasting and provide more “cushion.” Always use a lubricant when exploring back door play and make sure you use a lubricant that is compatible with your type of toy. Never use a silicone lubricant with a silicone toy. Read all about lubricants  here.

Our Top Picks for Your First Vibrator:

Now that we’ve covered all the nitty-gritty, let’s get to the fun part: recommendations.

Starlet 2 by Womanizer

Remember that touchless orgasm we mentioned earlier? This is where the Starlet 2 comes in. By delivering pressurized airwaves, this vibrator never actually comes into contact with your clit. With only two buttons, it’s easy and intuitive to use and will take your orgasms to dizzying heights.     

Tango by We-Vibe

Don’t let its size full you—this bullet vibe by Tango is packed with power, bringing with it 8 toe-curling levels of vibration and its angled tip helps hits the mark every time. Or, if you’re curious to try a variety of rumbling sensations including anal and g-spot stimulation, go for the We-Vibe Pleasure Mate Collection.

Magic Wand Original

This vibrator is legendary—in fact, it’s the very first wand that started it all. It features a soft, vinyl head for external stimulation and an intuitive control that lets you select high or low power. It’s truly the wand of all wands, perfect for beginners and seasoned veterans alike.

Kip by Dame

Small but mighty, the Kip lipstick vibrator by Dame will tickle, tease, and please time and time again. Its unique prism design offers clit-enveloping simulation, and its natural hold will already feel familiar in your hand, making it the perfect choice for a beginner’s toy.

Yumi by Vedo

Whisper quiet and fully waterproof, this is a fun finger vibrator to add to your repertoire. It easily fits between your index and middle finger, and its unique shape delivers pinpoint stimulation for all your best bits. The 10 vibrations will let you play around and explore what feels good to you.

RO G-Spot Vibrator by Rocks-Off

If you’re just pining to hit that elusive G-spot, this vibrator is up for the task. It’s sleek and angled design helps to reach the hard-to-hit erogenous zone, and its smaller girth and soft outer coating make it an unintimidating toy for beginners.

Aria Lotus Flutter by Blush

If your attention perks up when you consider a dual-stimulation rabbit vibrator, reach for the Aria Lotus Flutter. Except in this case, the rabbit ears have been swapped out for a fluttering butterfly, ready to stimulate to heightened levels of excitement. Dual motors make for a totally customizable experience, while its soft shape conforms to the contours of your body.

Caress by Adrien Lastic

Just thinking about this clitoral vibrator is exciting. It is the only one combining both vibrations and rotations for a truly orgasmic experience. Easily pop on any of the 5 different heads and set the vibrations as you explore which sensations bring you closer and closer to the edge.

Ready to Rumble?

No matter what your tastes, we have the vibrator to bring the sensations you crave. Explore our complete selection of beginner vibes here. If you still aren’t quite sure where to start, we recommend starting small. And once you experience the dizzying rumbles even small vibes can bring, we know you’ll be back for more.